Most often his method of speaking is filled with words any spouse would be thrilled to hear. I don't think I've experienced a day throughout our partnership where he didn't wake up saying, "Good morning, Beautiful." I have learned to appreciate that he sees me in a different way than I see myself.
One day, several years ago, I was facing a challenge that seemed insurmountable. I had to take a course of action that would test my strength, faith and way of Being in the world. I agonized over what I had to do and at one point, not liking that I was delaying the inevitable, I said to my husband, "I am such a coward."
He gently put his hands on my shoulders, looked me lovingly in the eyes, and said, "Honey, you are a lot of things. Including, at times, bitchy, bossy and moody. But you are no coward."
Normally, my being referred to as being bitchy, bossy and moody would have resulted in dire consequences. But in that instant, I knew he was telling me the truth. I don't know who was more surprised when I replied, "That's the nicest thing you've ever said to me."
Those words helped give me the strength to do what needed doing. I got through that challenge and when faced with other situations those words often ring in my ears. And I am always grateful when they do.
Because, in that space and time, they were the kindest words I ever heard.